It seems to come down to one primary theme for most every human I know, or have known. To carve a canyon of self-love in the heart of a shamed inner landscape. Not easy, when those inscripted to build that foundation failed to pass on tools. Not easy, when our ancestry planted seeds of self-hatred in the fields of our consciousness. It takes all that we have, a fertile imagination and a courageous willingness, to forage through the brush to find it. Often we look for it in others, and end up sorely disappointed. Because they can’t do it for us. They just can’t. This is our work, the work of our lives. To learn how to love ourselves, for real. People talk a lot about finding their purpose, without realizing that cultivating self-love IS sacred purpose. It’s the thing that changes everything.
Each of us possess a gripping life story. A continuance of
vital passages. An entire account of our earthly evolution.
Each story is a relevant thread in this infinite weave of
multicolored hue. Not every story will be spoken aloud. But
every story is sacred. Every story worth recounting. Every
story true. We must recognize the short-lived and silent
threads, for they are part of the magnificent cosmic shawl.
We must pause to give them a voice, to allow their spirit to
take space to confess their existence. We must give them the
honor that is due. ~Susan Frybort
does it matter???
Can we change it????
Can we redefine our lives???
Re-write our endings???
what is our life-work?
It’s something to think about….
Why are we here?
What does being a successful human really mean?
Is it about money?
Is it about fitting in to a corporation?
Impressing our community?
Fulfilling our families ambitions –
low or high as they might be?
This is what I believe is our life-work:
We are here to be our highest and best selves….
My poet friend, Fred Lamotte, says,
there are three rules here:
Each of us is unique and so each of us discovers different. The work includes getting to know ourselves. Stripping away the layers of societal and familial expectation, woundedness and our selfish natures (ego).
The best of our work is when we get to a point where all of our actions are based on love and not on anything else. It is the actual letting go…choosing to NOT do things you want to say no to, to not call your mom, or your kids, because of guilt. Every time you make a move which is counter to your wounded self/ego inclination, you get stronger
You are here to do the freeing work of inhabiting your own life and soul.
Being a sensitive person can be a confusing, complicated thing in this still harsh world. It feels intuitively right to open, to feel, to enhearten our daily life, but the world is still vibrating at a more armored and edgy place. It is not yet attuned to the ways of the open heart. So what to do? We don’t want to deaden our capacity to feel, but if we feel too much, we get run over by an often heartless world.
I have found my best answer in three places:
(1) Selective Attachment; that is- carefully discerning between positive and negative individuals and environments, and only attaching to those people and places that can hold our tender heart safe;
(2) Strong energetic boundaries; that is- being physically and emotionally charged, so that we can more effectively repel unwelcome energies;
(3) Conscious Armoring; that is- learning how to put on armor when necessary to manage the world and difficult situations, and, consciously removing it when it is no longer needed. If we cultivate these practices, we stand a much better chance of preserving our sensitivity. Once we lose it, we lose our connection to the moment altogether. Here’s to a sensitive way of being! What a courageous path! – Jeff Brown